PATIENCE IS THE CALM ACCEPTANCE

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Patience is the calm acceptance that things can happen in a different order than the one you have in mind.” ~David G. Allen

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A Short Buddha Story To Calm Your Mind

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  1. For the next SEVEN days, work on maintaining a sense of calm. This means , controlling your mind and body to be more calm than your usual state of being. Start today, writing your intention in the comments below. At the end of each day, including today [“Day 1”], return to these comments [in this message] and add “Day” + the day number + ONE insight for that day [edit this same message]. Peace be with you.

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Sidd Narayanabhatla
Sidd Narayanabhatla
3 years ago
Reply to  Q James

Well said, I too have realized the value of conscious focus and have really built it. I also have learned that staying calm makes life more enjoyable!

Scarlett Glasser-Nehls
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Scarlett Glasser-Nehls(@scarlett-glasser-nehls)
3 years ago

Agreed!

ame
ame
3 years ago

day 1, I will not let other peoples madness affect
my mood. I am in control of my Spirit and will focus on positive vibes in order to maintain my Calm.
Amustad🙂

Kay Donahue
Kay Donahue
3 years ago

Day 1: I will breathe and relax whenever I feel angry or upset. Letting my emotions control my actions is something I would like to have control of

Scarlett Glasser-Nehls
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Scarlett Glasser-Nehls(@scarlett-glasser-nehls)
3 years ago

My intentions are to notice if I start to lose patience, notice the triggers, and notice how long it takes me to calm down. I will try to take deep breaths and think of something I am grateful for.

Day 1: I noticed I lost patience when shots weren’t falling. I took a step back and got water and gave myself time to calm down.
Day 2: I noticed I did better staying positive during the impatient moments during the day, including waiting in long lines and running errands. If I do sense myself getting impatient I need to be careful with my words because I don’t want to hear myself complain.
Day 3: I began to lose patience while doing my accounting homework so I closed my laptop and took a few moments to regain my composure.
Day 4: I had a really busy but productive day. I managed to stay calm throughout the day and I am happy with my progress.
Day 5: I am at home now so these next few days will definitely test my patience. I definitely lost my patience a few times whether it was with school or my parents but as long as I don’t let it visibly show and I keep going I will be fine.
Day 6: I was becoming impatient with a group member of mine but I reminded myself that I don’t know what she has going on in her life so I should try to be more understanding.
Day 7: I can’t believe the week is over. I want to keep tracking my patience log now! Friday was fine, definitely room to improve in how I interact with my parents.

Last edited 3 years ago by Scarlett Glasser-Nehls
Gralen Vereen
Gralen Vereen
3 years ago

I’m glad to hear you found purpose in this activity. Also, happy to hear about your progression throughout the week. Keep it up!

Nainisha
Nainisha
3 years ago

It’s very hard for me to be patient in some situation, but I will try my best to stay calm.
Day 1 i will count 1 to 10 when I can’t control my anger & see what happens!

Eileen Marcial
Eileen Marcial
3 years ago

Funny that this is the topic for the day/week as I sit at a complete stop at the Hillsborough shredding facility.
One thing I will do to maintain calm and patience is to follow my instincts and just go to Staples and shred
My time is more valuable than the cost.
A new habit will be to pay to shred every 6 weeks snd NEVER find myself in this place again

Anisha Tahbildar
Anisha Tahbildar
3 years ago

Day 1, my intention is if I start to lose patience and my emotions start to take control of me, I will calm down and noticed what triggered me to lose my patience.

Ally Williams
Ally Williams
3 years ago

Yes, definitely noticing what triggered you to loose your patience is the first step!!

Denise McConnell
Denise McConnell
3 years ago

Knowing what triggers you puts you in the driver’s seat. You can then look for ways to eliminate the trigger.

Janel Powell
Janel Powell
3 years ago

I just had a conversation with my middle son about controlling his emotions in a stressful situation. That can be a challenge, but things are as they are. I truly believe there are no mistakes.

Ally Williams
Ally Williams
3 years ago

I intend to avoid letting an obstacle in my plans for the day completely ruin the rest of it.
Day 1: I’m not sure why my account won’t let me edit my comment, but I think yesterday I was able to control my calmness even though I had a busy, tiring day. By taking deep breaths after recognizing my rising emotions, I was able to have patience with myself and those around me.

On Day 2 I used a different type of patience, which was ability to continue working with little variations. I had a day full of homework yesterday, and with patience I was able to get it all done despite having to work longer than usual.

On day 4, I set a goal in the morning to get all my work done before practice and tutoring so I could go to bed a bit earlier, and I achieved it. It took patience and realization of the reward during the times I usually do other stuff instead of homework, but I was so happy when I got an extra hour of sleep.

Last edited 3 years ago by Q James
Ally Williams
Ally Williams
3 years ago
Reply to  Ally Williams

Day 5: Yesterday was exactly the type of day that tried my patience. I was able to be resilient with deep breaths and thoughts of achieving my goals, and I didn’t let obstacles overcome me (for very long).

Ally Williams
Ally Williams
3 years ago
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Day 6: I failed in my patience challenge yesterday. I had a change in schedule coming up, namely, lacrosse tryouts and going back to in person school for a day, and I had a mental breakdown and didn’t complete the work I meant to. With that being said, its opportunity to grow today and learn from those mistakes, and accepting that I am imperfect.

Ally Williams
Ally Williams
3 years ago
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Day 7: I let obstacles in my day let me become overstressed. I continued to work, but I failed to calm myself down. Next time, I need to find a quiet place for a few minutes and take some deep breaths.

Adriane Domareckyj
Adriane Domareckyj
3 years ago

My intention for day 1 is to look at the big picture and show gratitude when I am not able to feel a sense of calmness.

Adriane Domareckyj
Adriane Domareckyj
3 years ago

I used my time with Hayden on a bike ride to be thankful that I can be out and about riding with her. Thankful for our health. Help to keep things in perspective.

Adriane Domareckyj
Adriane Domareckyj
3 years ago

Day 2 Rainy days are days that test my patience when it comes to our puppy. She is a different dog when it rains- constantly taking things and jumping up. She longs to be outside.

I started early by reminding myself to practice patience and to breath deeply and slowly. It was helpful. We both survived the day. I kept reminding myself to be patient- she is just a puppy stuck indoors. Looking forward to the sun tomorrow.

Adriane Domareckyj
Adriane Domareckyj
3 years ago

Day 3 This is an easy week for me. The kids are on break and our schedule is pretty open. I don’t feel rushed and have spent some time watching tc during the day. It has been calm and easy. Even the puppy has been calm.

Adriane Domareckyj
Adriane Domareckyj
3 years ago

Day 4 I found the only moment I became irritated and frustrated was while driving. Someone was in the left lane going 10 miles under the speed limit and I couldn’t get around him. I counted to 10 and then flashed my highs-which caused the car to move to the right. Typically, I would stay behind the car and remain frustrated and not flash the car over. I was surprised how quickly he moved. Need to try and solve the problem before getting frustrated.

Claryce Cook
Claryce Cook
3 years ago

Calmness for a week.

Starting the day feeling tired and worn down. Let’s see how this goes.

Day 1: (will reflect at the end of the day.)

Last edited 3 years ago by Claryce Cook
Claryce Cook
Claryce Cook
3 years ago
Reply to  Claryce Cook

Day 1: I struggled to stay calm when my daughter beta in throwing fits at little things. I had to be very intentional on how I responded to her.

Day 2: Today was a good day. I was more aware of how frustrated I would get and was able to adjust quickly.

Day 3: I forgot that I was working to stay calm. I lost my cool with my husband in the morning due to something being misplaced. After we talked about it, the rest of the day went smoother.

Sidd Narayanabhatla
Sidd Narayanabhatla
3 years ago

I intend to stay calm around people and situations that often frustrate me. I will do this by counting how often I get frustrated. I will like to notice the triggers that cause me to lose my sense of calm.

Day 1: I noticed that I became frustrated with my dad once, but quickly recovered after I realized. I noticed that keeping a sense of calmness allows me to think better and think straight.

Last edited 3 years ago by Sidd Narayanabhatla
Sidd Narayanabhatla
Sidd Narayanabhatla
3 years ago

Day 2: I did well keeping calm especially in situations I usually don’t. I reminded myself my goal this week and I lost my calm twice more. Putting my number at 3 times this week so far.

I think I will practice some type of self care tomorrow when I wake up first thing. A big thing to identifying and stopping myself from loosing my calm and getting frustrated is identifying when my emotions are rising and always being self conscious and looking for that. Not letting the moment engulf your train of thought is what I realized a big part of staying calm.

Sidd Narayanabhatla
Sidd Narayanabhatla
3 years ago

Day 3: I did not lose my calm even once. I understand it is much easier for me because my interaction with others is minimal. I am only around my family so it makes life a little easier. But what I did today, workers out great!

Instead of getting annoyed or frustrated with questions I thought were ‘stupid’ or repetitive, I asked questions and was curious. I just asked why they asked that question, or the reason behind the question. It helps me get to the root of the problem while staying very ca and contained. My frustration counter remains at 3 this week.

Sidd Narayanabhatla
Sidd Narayanabhatla
3 years ago

Day 4: I was doing so well that day till I lost my calm at the VERY end of the day. I still think I am being very conscious and doing great! I have kept calm and collected, and I am really enjoying this.
FRUSTRATION COUNTER: 4

Tracie Stewart
Tracie Stewart
3 years ago

Day 1: Despite intention, I found myself letting the anxiety of others impact my sense of calm. Tomorrow I will practice deep breathing when/if outside influences or negative thoughts surface.

Gralen Vereen
Gralen Vereen
3 years ago

Day 1: Today was a calm day for me. I haven’t felt sped up at all. Although, as the day is ending, I am trying to keep my mind from filling with “what if” thoughts. “What if I just accepted that basketball is over for me?” Or “what if just went the other way?” .. That’s the toughest part for me.

Gralen Vereen
Gralen Vereen
3 years ago
Reply to  Gralen Vereen

Day 2: I realized I missed A day but I was home for the weekend and felt like I didnt have enough time to see or make everyone happy. When I’m home, I really just want to relax. So it’s frustrating when people come at you with a thousand errands and now they’re rushing you.

Day 3: Today started off well. 7am field workout went well. Now, I’m trying to stay calm as I approach these two exams in a few hours. I’m feeling somewhat unprepared because I’ve been slacking but I’ma thug it out lol

Gralen Vereen
Gralen Vereen
3 years ago
Reply to  Gralen Vereen

Day 4: Tuesday was a solid day for me. No classes so I got to relax and take my time with homework. Also spent some time in the gym.

Day 5: Wednesdays are my busiest days so I try take it one step at a time. Fully focus on my current task and recoup after. Then I prepare for the next task. Overall, I feel like I handled it well.

Gralen Vereen
Gralen Vereen
3 years ago
Reply to  Gralen Vereen

Day 6: thursday was a good day. I was in a healthy space mentally. I was In the gym twice that day which is beautiful lol

Toriano Duncan
Toriano Duncan
3 years ago

I just had this conversation with my son yesterday about how to control his anger, during our discussion I really that I have to control me anger issues also because he is watching so we came up with a plan to count from 10-0 while taking a deep breath in and out

Loris Murdock-Johnson
Loris Murdock-Johnson
3 years ago

My intention is to be more patient with myself and others as the process unfolds. Throughout the process maintain consistency and joy.

Sirisha Ghatty
Sirisha Ghatty
3 years ago

Missed Day 1 and 2.
Day 3: I am really really sad to hv missed this wonderful and important 7 day task of practicing calm.
I really needed this past 2 days as I lost my cool and was so disturbed with my daughter.
I hope I can join today to complete the rest of the days.
I am getting back into control of myself by becoming aware of my ego that led me to anger and hurt. I am reminding myself that I am Love. I have to be persistent.

Sirisha Ghatty
Sirisha Ghatty
3 years ago
Reply to  Sirisha Ghatty

Day 4:
I did loose my cool couple times today but I stayed away from the situation, reminded myself that I am love, which is helping me stay calm and not react. I am being mindful of my thoughts and actions. Finally can give few points to myself end of the day 👏👍

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Sirisha Ghatty
Sirisha Ghatty
3 years ago
Reply to  Sirisha Ghatty

Day 5: yesterday was a really good day for me. Didnt get upset or angry even once. I infact got a chance to share my thoughts and feelings and it helped me to become more calmer. God comes in disguise to help 🙏

Denise McConnell
Denise McConnell
3 years ago

My intention is to be at peace with the most significant people in my life. To be grateful for each of them. To express love to them, be patient with the difficult encounters. To become untriggable.
Day 1- The day was off to a difficult start. I was challenged at the beginning of the day by the first two significant people I encountered. While I was calm on the outside I was not at peace on the inside. I stayed engaged in the conversation until I calm down on my insides. I reminded myself how grateful I am for these two people in my life. I have lots of work to do.

Denise McConnell
Denise McConnell
3 years ago

Day 2 – today got off to a good start. Early, 6;30am, my husband said something to me I didn’t like. Instead of responding out of my emotions I calmed myself, decided that was not the best time to have the conversation. Less than an hour later he asked me a question that gave me an opportunity to share the impact of his earlier comment. I am getting the hang of staying calm.

Scarlett Glasser-Nehls
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Scarlett Glasser-Nehls(@scarlett-glasser-nehls)
3 years ago

Thanks for sharing Denise! I am really happy to hear that you let yourself calm down before addressing what was bothering you. This is definitely something I can work on!

Denise McConnell
Denise McConnell
3 years ago

Day 3 – A friend challenged me to look at any harmful ways I may be communicating, especially with my love ones. I am learning to listen more especially to myself. I’m appreciating those around me more.

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Scarlett Glasser-Nehls(@scarlett-glasser-nehls)
3 years ago

That sounds like a great friend. We could all use someone like that in our lives.